‘Happy Father’s Day’ does not always seem to fit for some people who had less than an ‘A+’ experience with their fathers. The ‘A’ often stands of Abusive, Abandonment, or Awfully-emotionally-unavailable.
Long ago, I learned to celebrate the lessons my father gifted me as a child of an Alcoholic father. Yes, I have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility; yes, I highly prefer to be ‘in control’, and yes, I tend to ‘do it myself’ because I can predict the results. While I have had to learn to temper and refined all these qualities I inherited as a result of who my father was, in the end, they have served me well.
The last lesson my father taught me has most shaped my life. It is the importance of being able to imagine.
My father’s birthday was June 13 and often fell on Father’s Day. In late December, 20 years ago, my father had just returned from an AA meeting with a burning desire to work the 5th & 8th steps:Read More